Thank you for addressing me. I appreciate your honesty
and sincerity which sound in your letter.
I will try to answer your question to the best of my possibility and
As you realize, there are very many soldiers/military officers here,
in Russia, as well. They definitely have their wives. Here life of military
people can be really tough (they can be underpaid, meet housing problems,
etc.). Still there are ladies who take up that responsibility of being
a soldier's wife.
On the other hand, as far as I know, US soldiers have better living
conditions than Russian ones (in general), the US government takes care
of their army.
As it seems to me, if you do make up your mind to contact ladies through
our site, you should, in your very first letter, give more details about
your soldier's life (many ladies would not realize that there can be
a difference between being a soldier of Russia and being a soldier of
the USA): what kind of tough things you mean? How often you may be away
from home? For how long? What can your wife (from another country, from
Russia) be engaged with while you are away? Can she actually travel
with you and share your life over there, in the places you may have
to be stationed? What kind of sacrifices you mention here? In what sense
is the life of a soldier can be rewarding?
There are certainly some advantages, too, in being a soldier –
so talk about them to ladies, as well. Give examples.
Give objective and concrete "pluses" and "minuses"
so that the lady would understand (and probably would have more questions
to ask you) that being with you, a soldier, would demand devotion from
her – but can be rewarding as well.
Also, state (like you stated in this letter to me) that being a soldier
is your life.
Overall, as I believe, your first letter should be open and detailed
(as detailed as possible - "coming to the point") –
thus, you provide ladies with concrete information (and food for thought)
from the very beginning. Ask her if she really feels she can and will
be willing to lead this kind of life.
As for your quest for a really decent lady, I understand you very well
here, but unfortunately, I cannot say anything in particular right now,
meaning I cannot pick up, let's say, 5 or 10 ladies and let you know
that they are decent ones. Correspondence is your first step here. Later
on, when/if ladies come to the office to pick up your letters for them
and bring theirs for you, I could probably get some idea about the ladies.
There is one thing I know for sure – it is possible to find /
meet good people in any corner of the world – as well as bad ones.
I hope I managed to help you, at least a little bit.
Thank you very much, and I wish you good luck in your search for your