Helen
I have a question about a Woman who wants to take a man shopping in
the first 2 or 3 days of getting to know each other. I am quite happy
to provide some romantic gifts like flowers, cards, perfume, take
her to restaurants of reasonable price etc. But it seems like a red
flag to me if she shows me things in stores and tells me she does
not have one of these or those. It makes me feel she is not interested
in me but wants to get money out of me. It makes me feel she does
not want to establish a relationship and will be discarding me in
a few days. I assume this is a gray area and not black or white.
Can you tell me the mind set for this common with Russian Women?
It sounds to me as if you are referring to some past experience you
have had when attending one the of group tours offered by companies
that specialize in introducing you to hundreds of strange women with
whom you have had no previous contact whatsoever.
When you attend dates/tours of this kind, and there are a number of
ladies over there and you choose them, and the ladies see you for
the first time… most probably they feel like "goods",
they do not know if you will choose them or not, and even though you
may choose them, they do not know if it is a serious thing or just
for some time…they do not care about you and, most probably,
they just try to take advantageof you and get the most of the time
they will spend with you.
When you first develop your relationship with a lady through correspondence,
usually you two start to care about each other and the situation that
you have described in your email rarely will happen. My answer to
this is, "No, this is not a common mindset among Russian women."
This is my impression. I may be wrong, as I have never been really
familiar with the situations confronting men who, along with thirty
or fourty others, takes one of the group tours.
