Hello Joe,
You know, it is a worldwide known fact that most Russian
women have very strong family values. The majority of Russian women
prefer to take care of their husband, kids and family, than to pursue
their career. It is in the nature of the most part of Russian women
to dream of getting married, of having kids and of taking care of their
home and family. Most Russian men,
unfortunately, do not care much for having a family. They would prefer
to be independent and to make money. Plus, there are too many drug-
and alcohol-addicted men here. Besides, there is a common opinion here
that there are more opportunities abroad, and life, in general, is more
stable there.
I believe, the majority of women who address such marriage agencies
are looking for stability in a relationship, including financial stability.
I cannot conceal that here in Russia most ladies feel insecure, do not
know what to expect in the future, and are just overloaded with housework
and everyday worries and cares about children. Naturally, they want
more stability and a life which will be at least a little easier than
they have here. Speaking about the language barrier, I can say that
this kind of problem is something which is possible to deal with.
The Volgagirl agency provides private English lessons to its ladies-clients.
We have many gentlemen ? our customers ? who order English lessons for
their ladies. It is a good opportunity for a woman to improve her speaking
skills before moving to another country and marrying a foreigner. If
a lady is serious and goal-oriented, she can learn the language.
If you are referring to the problem of a language barrier during the
correspondence period, we can easily solve that problem. We translate
your letters from English into Russian and letters of ladies from Russian
into English. We do not use any translation software, so we guarantee
the absolute accuracy of our translations.
I would also like to say that we informevery lady who registers within
our agency that in the future she may possibly move to another country,
to the country of her probable future husband. There are some ladies
who would ask if there were any cases when a foreign man would move
here. Our agency has not had such practice.
I think I would be right if I say that the overwhelming majority of
ladies ARE planning and would LIKE to move to another country to marry
a decent reliable man. Ladies can have problems here, and can be happy
here, because this is the place where they were born and they know the
ways here, traditions, customs, etc. But they all miss a reliable man
in their life, as living alone for an average woman in Russia is a pretty
tough task. It is natural if a lady would feel homesick. It is your
"job" to do it so that she feels comfortable at your place
and to overcome possible difficulties together. Besides, there may be
an opportunity for her, or for you together, to travel to her country
once or twice a year? Let her know about it then!
There is no way the lady can simply "purchase a visa". If
you live in the USA or Canada, there is no way she can come to visit
on a tourist visa. Under no circumstance can that happen. Russian women
are not granted visitor or tourist visas. For example, the US laws say
that you must meet her anywhere outside the USA before you can sponsor
her on a K-1 Visa, which will allow the both of you to spend 90 days
together within which to decide if you will get married. She does not
have to marry you (or you do not have to marry her) right away, though
if things work out well for the two of you, nothing can prevent you
from getting married over there in your country, if she traveled to
you on fiancée visa.
If you are not married on Day-90, she must return to Russia.
Besides, the majority of ladies would be afraid to travel to a place
they do not know, to a man they have never met in person before. They
feel more comfortable if a man travels here, to Russia. Like you may
have your prejudice and negative ideas about Russia, ladies here can
have their fears about "men abroad".
THE ADVANTAGE OF TRAVELING TO TOGLIATTI, RUSSIA
If it is Togliatti, then gentlemen and ladies have us, the Volgagirl
agency, here to address for any sort of help if needs so, while in any
other place there will be just you and she – you will have to
act on your own, to try to overcome the language barrier on your own.
It is good if both of you take things easy and do not get upset or frustrated
because of misunderstanding (or, maybe, even sometimes total incomprehension).
While I know a couple who broke up because they did not speak each other's
languages, but tried to do without an interpreter/ translator from the
very beginning. Some misunderstanding, which was a natural result of
their "no-translator" communication, absolutely frustrated
him and he withdrew into himself, making no efforts to talk to her,
which, in its turn, perplexed and hurt her.
Having an interpreter/ translator, at least for the first few days of
your in-person meeting, can be of crucial importance to establish an
easy comfortable relationship, to take away any sort of constraint or
shyness which may be registered at first (as a general trait, Russians
can be more reserved than people of Western culture). Having an interpreter
/ translator would allow you to talk nearly about anything, while the
language barrier would inevitably limit the range of topics you two
can discuss. We suggest to our clients that do visit Togliatti to alternate
between using an interpreter for some hours, and then spending some
hours with the same lady without the interpreter. Communication at your
own levels of intellect is very important, but spedning time along to
get a sense of the emotional chemistry between you is also important
as well.
I hope you would find my answer complete, if not, feel free to ask me
more detailed questions.
Sincerely
Helen
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