or more realistically maybe
somewhere in-between ...
Sometimes a careful examination of closely held beliefs reveal some new insights
Any man's chances of finding a desirable Russian girl can
be greatly enhanced based upon a realistic understanding of the following
classical myths surrounding Western-Russian marriages.
"MYTH" ROGET'S II THESAURUS PROVIDES THE FOLLOWING SYNONYMS TO
DESCRIBE THE WORD MYTH: fable, legend, fiction, fantasy, invention
Russian girls prefer American & other
The Russian women profiled on this site, comparatively speaking,
perceive American men and other western men as stable and decent financial
providers who are apt to be more loyal and family oriented.
War, deprivation, and internal persecution within a system
that for over 80 years never measured up to it's intended greatness; the systemic
hardships that the Russians have experienced over that period of time have
been directly responsible for an attrition of strong, stable & confident
Russian men. Through sheer need, an inordinate numbers of generational Russian
nuclear families have evolved as matriarchal units (ones guided and governed
by the women rather than men). Furthermore, there are a shortage of
men in Russia as compared to women with at least 10 million more women than
men throughout the country.
Unemployment in Russia is high and opportunities for both
individual and collective financial mobility are extremely limited. Since
Aug 1998, Russian currency (the ruble) has lost 5 times it's previous value.
The amount of worry and distress that such situations can cause individual's
might increase the incidence of alcoholism among members of any society. Such
has been the case in Russia. Though salaries in Russia are rising they
are not keeping pace with inflation and the Russia populace continue to
struggle with this financial burden.
Therefore; the opportunities that the advent of the Internet
coupled with the "Russian bride phenomenon" have brought about
an avenue whereby Russian girls have inclination and avenue to meet American
and other western men. These factors compel a few brave Russian ladies
profiled on the A Volga Girl to seek their happiness with a foreign
man as a matter of necessity.
Russian girls are more intelligent &
most are well educated.
It would truly be a stretch to say that Russian girls have
more intelligence than American girls. We suggest that considerations relative
to culture and circumstances would more formally dictate how intelligence
is either used or underutilized. We have all heard the expression, "Necessity
is the mother of invention, "and it is clear to anyone who has visited
Russia that the people are quite creative. Their political system used
be extremely oppressive, and today the economic situation is equally as difficult.
The creative adaptations that the Russians must make on a
daily basis are driven by will. Many individuals still cling to the faint
hope of someday flourishing in the event that Russia will somehow provide
the systemic opportunities for standards of living afforded those in America
and other western-oriented countries.
The old Soviet system prided itself on providing equally
among all of it's people (though it never did in practice). Upward mobility
within Russia has always been difficult. Education today is valued due to
the people's limited ability to make money in a free-market manner. Their
limited mobility was based upon their profession, which was directly related
to their education.
Engineering, medicine, literature, the arts and other sciences,
all have been frequent choices for both pre and post-cold war students.
rate of graduation from some type of post high school institute or university
in Russia is quite high. Even with a highly educated population the
salaries in Russia tend to be only 25% of those in Western and other
developed western countries.
One can easily find a beautiful young
Russian girl who will be happy to marry an older man though the age gap is
There is no question that in today's Russia, there exists
an abundance of beautiful young girls. A Volga Girl profiles hundreds
of such women.
European culture has never held the taboos against older
men and younger women. Each lady has their own preference in age difference
as reflected in each lady's profile on "A Volga Girl website. In
general, older men are viewed as more mature, settled &
financially stable. It is understood that, at least in theory, an older man
has made his mark on the world and is not struggling financially the way a
younger man might.
Consider these factors: Any beautiful young 23 year-old
Russian girl profiled on this site might be corresponding with two equally
emotionally and financially stable men, ages 28 and 35 years respectively. Personalities
aside, "Would the lady choose the older man"? Experience shows
that the difference would probably be based on the person & not their
age. Most Russian women would not accept an age difference of over 10 years
if the lady is in their 20s. As a lady ages into her 30s and 40s, an
age difference of 15-20 years would most likely be the maximum age
Each man was kind, generous, sincere, and truly desired to
make this young woman happy in America or another western-oriented country.
The first of the men to travel to Russia asked her if she would come to America.
"Would she accept his offer to come to America prior to getting married"?
So, in response to the question, "Will Russian girls
marry older men"? The answer is a resounding YES. After all -- the
President of A Volga Girl is 12 years his wife's senior.
Russian girls want to become housewives
and have no interest in career.
Initially, we can say that Russian girls collectively hold
more traditional values than their western-oriented counterparts. Yet too
often there is a corresponding value judgment about this. Without question
American and other western oriented men involved in the "Russian-bride-learning-curve"
state that they are in search of women that are willing to stay at home and
raise children. A more careful examination of why Russian women might be
willing to do that helps clarify this issue.
While it has already been stated herein that the circumstances
of war, oppression, & deprivation have historically "whittled down
the Russian man," Russia is still a society whereby women continue to
be perceived as less than equals to men. Just as an America an equality in
earning power between a coupled man & a woman can cause some emotional
difficulties (the men cannot use money as a leverage issue) .. the earning
disparity between at-home mothers and primary breadwinners factors by at least
100% in Russia.
As quiet as it is kept on most Russian bride sites throughout
the Internet -- there are millions of working mothers in Russia. They are
working to provide food for their children and often times their extended
If Russian girls in general have an inclination to bear
and raise children, it could hardly be said that they are choosing this over
career path. They choose such path's in Russia because that is an expected
and defined role within the Russian society. Given that the opportunities
for career were more available to them, without question many ladies would
move toward that direction. One would be hard pressed to find a Mr. Mom
father) in Russia.
We suggest that once a Russian girl has been exposed to
the opportunities available on an individual basis in America (for example),
she might choose to experience some of "that culture" before she
bears children and raises her children.
Flexibility on this point is extremely crucial, as the American
man that plans to marry a Russian girl and immediately expect her to bear
children (while at the same time making an her initial adjustments to living
in a new society & culture; such a man may be headed for a rude awakening).
His new Russian bride expresses her desire for some degree of independence
within a new society before fulfilling her commitment to family.
The issues of children & career are complex within any
society. These are issues about which people's attitudes are shaped by popular
culture, though the resolution is something that must be mediated between
individuals. Many Russian ladies profiled on this website are divorced and
may or may not have a child. Most Russian ladies desire to have at
least one child, if they don't have any assuming they are of child bearing
age between 25 and 38 years old as in Western society. This is pretty
consistent throughout the world and no different in Russia.
The "importation" so to speak of a Russian girl
in no way protects a man from having to deal with such issues surrounding
career. Life has never been that easy ...
Russian girls hold traditional family
values. It is natural for them to make sacrifices and to serve their
husbands as equal partners.
YES, this is true -- though living in today's Russia calls
upon EVERYONE to make particular sacrifices. Russian women truly are known
to be loving, caring, and dedicated wives and mother's.
To assume that Russian girls have a genetic disposition
toward naturally sacrificing rather than putting themselves first is wishful
Once again we suggest to you that while such is the case with many women
throughout the world; such characteristics are a by-product of the society,
and normative attitudes that they have grown-up with.
Russian girls have more style, beauty,
Russian girls in most medium to large cities have exposure to
the fashionable clothing & accessories of American or other western-oriented
women. This myth is as well a stretch of the reasonable imagination.
The fact that American women have grown-up wearing blue
jeans or sweat-suits, dressing a little (or a lot) more casual than many
American men might like, this is a fact. American society is getting more
casual all of the time, and it is an absolute truth that Russian girls are
more "dressed up" when you see them on the street anywhere in Russia. "Will
they continue the custom once they are settled in their new country?" The
answer is frequently YES, but over time they will conform more to the
country of residence.
Russian society has always been a more closed and homogeneous
than say, the United States or Europe, where immigrants from all over the world have
settled and mixed. Russian women do possess a unique beauty and a "mysteriousness"
that many western men are drawn to.
It is a well known and accepted fact that the incidence
of gross obesity among Americans and much of the West is the highest in the civilized world. The
bodies of the adult population get bigger every year. While beauty is in the
eye of the beholder, it is an undeniable fact that many American men find
completely distasteful the increasing physical size and sheer girth of literally
tens of millions of American women.
The perception here that someone who allows their body to
become so misshapen and out of proportion has issues directly related to self-image
& self- esteem, and is frequently correct.
The Russian diet is the largest contributing factor to the
thin/shapely profile that many Russian women experience. Fast food restaurants
do not abound on every city corner. Fried foods are not a staple of the Russian
diet and it is as well assumed that sugar is not added to processed foods
the way it is in America.
Russian girls are not thin because they are starving to
death. The average Russian walks approximately 2 miles per day. Such exercise
is always a positive influence on our overall health and fitness.
Russian wgirls will love you as you, and
are not interested in your finances.
Having examined some of the factors responsible for the Russian-bride
phenomenon, we can suggest that a large percentage of these ladies are looking
forward to a better life in the west. Given that they have not had the exposure
to the prosperity found in the west, and it is not unreasonable to identify
that they might be more attuned to the individual as opposed to what the individual
Provided the opportunity, a Russian girls would most likely
marry a man with whom she felt a high level of trust, honesty, love AND
financial security as well. Please keep in mind that financial security might
be defined by many of these Russian girls as the man's ability to pay monthly
expenses and have some monies left over for discretional spending.
The myth that many of these ladies are looking to "land
a millionaire" so they can subsequently take the man for all he is worth
is a complete distortion of reality. These woman have known extreme hardship
all of their lives. That particular myth is about as realistic as a homeless
person expecting to have their own private jet. There is simply no adequate
and reliable frame-of- reference to reasonably perpetuate this myth.
People are people, and it cannot be said with certainty how
any particular group will collectively think or feel about something as subjective
My life will change dramatically after
I find and marry a Russian girl.
Yes, of course one's life radically changes when they get
married. The challenges and adventure to finding, knowing & marrying
a Russian girl can be exciting and rewarding.
The adjustment period once your Fiancée comes to America
(unless you get married in Russia -- and the management of this site strongly
advises against that option) is an important and crucial period of time that
sets the stage for your entire relationship together.
It is during that 3-month "probationary" period
of time that each couple can get to know each other and make the important
decision whether they will marry.
Russian girls are extremely loyal given that they are paired
with an equally kind & devoted mate. Russian girls are used to making
sacrifices & are strong-willed & resourceful. Such a woman would
radically change any man's life.